Labels

3 words lately have been very present in my mind and something funny they all start with the letter A they are Acceptance, Approval and Appreciation, and well  everything I've done, seen or heard in my life had much to do with these 3 things,  to start as I realized our social nature makes us  acceptance suckers, we seek to be accepted not only for others but for ourselves also, the feeling that what we do or  not do is somehow approved by the others we really  we care what the think about us, and ofcourse its  clear  we seek  a kind of recognition for the things we do.
the things we do  to get approval,  acceptance and appreciation can often be related to the status quo, that role that society has given us, but in reality if we begin thinking about it, who has the pawer dictating how we should we behave??See for example if you are good for a sport, society immediately classifies you as an athlete, or if you excellent for numbers zappp, u are a mathematician and so if you're good at painting  or dance zapp... artist and so I could go on but this are  really very open  categoryes  and i  mentioned only positive ones, but there  are also no so good ones like the guy that enjoys more than usual and have more than a few drinks is drunk or the girl who  tends to  falls in love  for one guy , and another, and another and becomes Women of gallant life?.... and i wonder?? why  this need we have to label everyone ? and so that haunted my mind  until i got to the conclusion that all these tags give us a certain amount of security  of what  exists in the world and well if you think about it this world is a very strange place because everyones is diferent and everyone have our own unike world, and although we put a labels on people we really dont know them 110%  an well  this connects with what I said at firs, the labels that society has given us,  many people can act because they agree to this but why ? its simple to be accepted, approved and later on be  recognized  ... but in reality the only person who can decide who you are, what you do or  not do  is you!of course i´ll be frank people often prefer not to interrupt whit the flow of society and act the way they should and that you act its according to the expectations that you must fill.  but the truth and I say this to people as are different and do not feel comfortable with that role that society gave them,  being different is not easy many times people will not accept u o will try to make you do something youre not and  that's because you can not be labeled because you are many different things and that is scary for them. but the most important thing here is that you auto approve, auto apcepts  I thank and acknowledge you only amazing, and well for the good interracion with the people around i think it is important to accept people as they are, we must allow them to be themselves, dont label, dont make people furfill role that is not a part of themselves, and try or expect to do it perfectly  news flash:  NOBODY IS PERFECT but that's why the world is  pretty interesting, so  accept everyone as they are and  dont try to negotiate with people accaptance. try to do it  and I'm sure you'll be happier, as someone once told me Nobody  has the power to reform and transform  another person if the could it  would be like buying an article of your choice, and I believe with all my heart that if people actually practiced this kind of acceptance people would leave the labels aside and we could see ourselves as we really are, regardless our embarrasing feachures and flaws  and so we´ll be able to accept faster ourselves and others and  we would be on our way to a better lifestyle. another point is to aprove,  it goes a little beyond than acceptance because its more about the that details,  but think a moment who are we  to approve or disapprove something or someone??so I've decided that I will try to transform this concept of  approval because it reminds me more than anything to people who are in our lives that are challenging or very coarse and is linked to and acting out as part of a defense mechanism  and i´m  telling you because I did a little experiment, a while ago I went to home depot to return something and the lady who was attending was in a bad mood and she was treating everyone badly and I was in line uuuuuu thinking how she was going  to treat to me? so when it was my turn i said to her : good morning how are you? and she awnsered me whit a very rude tone and tolde me : What is that you are here for ?,  I responded:  see i came to change that, hey sorry to interrupt but youre earrings are very cool  (and i truly wasent lying I actually liked her earrings ) so to make the story short the  girl radically change her attitude and not just whit me but with others also her  voice and her posture.... everything... woww.... and it got me thinking how a detail like that so small, insignificant made her  unconsciously   feel better and act much, much better.  so find something positive in others so we can enjoy in one way or another people, everyone want aproval so if  we realize that if even if its a small detali about something that you like say it, and the number of things we're going to see in this person will grow, because  people begin to open, remember that everyone has something positive!! and lastly I believe that giving thanks and appreciation to others is very important because it will let them know they are really appreciated, not because u have a great friend, he or she has the responsibility to talk with you and ask u how u are?, they do it because they love u you, so we really need to practice more ways to make them see that we love and appreciate them  and  to start  the  simple word " thanks" is huge eventhou is so small.
i invite you to contribute with our own little existance in this world and be different, break these labels that dont show what we truly are, Accept youre self, others,  Aproove and apreciate them. I hope you liked my humble opinion and as I leave you with a phrase that I love
 " say what you mean and do what you feel, because those who matter do not mind and those  who mind do not matter." - Dr. Seuss

 have a great week!!